There is little doubt that the schedules of most families today are overflowing with extra-curricular activities: dance practice, soccer and football just to name a few.

The options are endless for organized activities in our society. Every second of everyday could virtually be filled if you so desired, but what if you are yearning for some balance? How do you choose what your children participate in?

A wise family friend of mine gave me some advice on this, and I thought I would share with all of you!

When the kids are in bed sit down with your significant other and make a list of goals for each of your children (15-25 life goals). Yes, each child should have their own list. What direction do you desire your children to go? What do you want them to achieve?

Here are some examples off of my oldest daughters list:

• To be respectful of all people despite ones differences,
• Have good time management skills,
• Care for the environment,

In order for an activity to be added to the family calendar it must meet, exceed or work towards a minimum of three life goals! Remember activities are meant to improve one's life, not make it miserable. The activities one participates in should rather represent their commitment to a goal, their interests and overall attitude towards life.

Is there room in your family calendar? If so, be sure to check out some of these local extra-curricular activities:

Dance/Performing Arts

• The Turning Pointe School for the Performing Arts
• Mary Ellen Studio of Dance
• Dancer's Workshop

Martial Arts and Fitness

• PKSA Karate
• Sidekicks Martial Arts Studio
• St. Clair Shores Adult and Community Education – has lots to offer from self enhancement to fitness classes. Registration is going on now for most activities by calling (586) 285-8880

Civic Arena-  

• Ice Skating Lessons
• Hockey

A new school year brings about new goals, excitement, and new commitments. Extra-curricular activities are a big part of school and growing up.

Research indicates that children who participate in extra-curricular activities are more likely to have better grades, higher standardized test scores and have better school attendance.

In the midst all of these activities, keeping balance is crucial to one's success. Too many extracurricular activities will simply lead to a hectic schedule, stress, fatigue, difficulty in completing school assignments, and an inability to fulfill ones family and community responsibilities.

What are your children going to be involved in this upcoming school year? Share with me on the Patch or at amamajourney@gmail.com!